12 Traditions of COSLAA
1. Our common welfare should come first, personal recovery depends upon unity.
2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority-a loving God as this Power may be expressed through our group conscience.
3. The only requirement for COSLAA membership is a desire to stop living our a pattern of co(dependency)-sex and love addiction. The relatives, friends, and significant others, when gathered together for mutual aid, may call themselves a COSLAA group, provided that as a group they have no other affiliation.
4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting another group, or COSLAA or SLAA as a whole.
5. Each group has but one primary purpose-to help families, friends, and significant others of sex and love addicts. We do this by practicing the Twelve Steps of COSLAA ourselves and by welcoming and giving comfort to the relatives, friends, and significant others of sex and love addicts.
6. A COSLAA group or COSLAA as a whole ought never endorse, finance, or lend the COSLAA name or SLAA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, or prestige divert us from our primary purpose. Although a separate entity, we should strive to cooperate with SLAA.
7. Every COSLAA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
8. COSLAA should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
9. COSLAA as such ought never to be organized, but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
10. COSLAA has no opinion on outside issues; hence the COSLAA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than on promotion. We need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, TV, film and other public media.
We need guard with special care the anonymity of all fellow COSLAA members.
12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.
Hi, I am a love addict who is struggling with attachment/fantasy. I have attended SALAA in the past and wish to return. I have discussed this with my husband and have suggested that he go to the COSLAA group for emotional support and that he will learn what my triggers are, etc. Is this group (we would be going to Westfield) appropriate for both the love addict AND spouse or just the spouses(significant others) of the addict? Thank you in advance for your answer.
Sheila Scherlin
Comment by Sheila Scherlin — August 3, 2009 @ 2:24 pm