CoSex and Love Addicts Anonymous Connecticut Courage to change the things I can and Wisdom to know the difference

June 19, 2009

12 Steps

Filed under: — brenda @ 12:58 pm

12 Steps of COSLAA

Step One: Letting Go
We admitted we were powerless over our codependency to a sex and love addict, and our lives had become unmanageable.

Step Two: Reliance
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

Step Three: Conviction
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

Step Four: Self-Scrutiny
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Step Five: Disclosure
Admitted to God and to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Step Six: Being Prepared
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

Step Seven: Trust
Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

Step Eight: Readiness
Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

Step Nine: Change
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible except when to do so would injure them or others or ourselves.

Step Ten: Confession
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

Step Eleven: Worship
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

Step Twelve: Support
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in our day to day living.


  1. I am looking for a meeting or help for myself and my husband after numerous affairs on my part. I am making many changes in my life and looking for support and direction. I live in Indiana

    Comment by renee — January 15, 2010 @ 1:16 pm

  2. My husband of 44 years is a sex offender. I need to find help for myself, my children and my grandchildren

    Comment by Pauline — January 25, 2010 @ 2:50 am

  3. I am looking for a group in South Florida

    Comment by Alex — October 18, 2010 @ 10:17 am

  4. looking for meeting in ct. for both me and my ofriend. i’m the sex addicted and I made mistakes in our realationship and want to fix them for the both of us.

    Comment by lynette — July 5, 2011 @ 10:36 pm

  5. looking for meetings in ct for me and m boyfriend. i messed up and i ant to fix it and make it better again

    Comment by lynette — July 5, 2011 @ 10:38 pm

  6. I am looking for a meeting. I live in NH, but am willing to travel to MA if needed. When I emailed the Newburyport contact the email was returned as an invalid address. Thank you.

    Comment by Colleen — December 21, 2011 @ 12:40 pm

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