CoSex and Love Addicts Anonymous Connecticut Courage to change the things I can and Wisdom to know the difference

June 19, 2009


Filed under: — brenda @ 12:57 pm


National/ International Meeting List

COSLAA 12 Step Recovery groups are open to family, friends and significant others of sex and love addicts but are closed to sex addicts.

Two or more persons may call themselves a COSLAA fellowship for the 12 step recovery for family, friends, and significant others affected by a sex and love addict. Contact the helpline or webguide to list phone, email, or meeting information.

International Helpline:

Updated July 4, 2011

New meeting is forming.
Contact Betsy: email to


San Francisco New meeting is forming.
Contact Phillip:
email to

Ventura or Santa Barbara newcomers sought to form a new meeting (Oct. 2010)

Contact Yan at,  or call  (805)636-2423



Ivoryton (New meeting day effective Sept. 17, 2009)
Thursdays, 5-7pm
All Saints Episcopal Church, 129 Main Street,  Ivoryton, CT  Entrance is on Main St, long driveway, parking lot is in back of church.  Enter from back door. 
 Contact: 860-456-0032 before attending first meeting to confirm

New Haven COSLAA Fellowship sought.  Newcomers call Donna (203) 668-6724

Willimantic Wednedays, 7-8:30pm –New Meeting room starting December 2, 2009 First Congregational Church199 Valley Street, 2nd floor library, take elevator to “2”,  or use stairs to the second floor)Contact: l helpline 860 456 0032  attending your first meeting.


Tampa (new time 4/4/07)
Tuesday 6:30 -7:30 PM
Open meeting, step meeting 1st Tues.
Church of Christ (Northwest Tampa)
7259 Sheldon Road, Tampa


Thursday Step Meeting 7-8:30pm
8 Hilltop Avenue, Kingston, MA (The Vineyard Church, upstairs)        Contact:  Beth 508 274 4261

Newburyport meeting being started.
Contact: Cynthia
(Posted 3/25/07)

Western Massachusetts meeting forming (posted 3/14/10) Contact:

New Hampshire

New meeting opening up in Corcord, New Hampshire  (posted July 4, 2011)

Contact:  Diane   at   

New York (posted 4/9/07, updated email 11/10/07)

Orange County/Goshen
Contact Deana
Interested newcomers willing to help start a fellowship sought.


Macedonia-Tuesday nights, 7pm    Contact: Judy  440-382-1365  (posted 6/25/12)


Philadelphia meeting space is available by   (9/15/10)

Mary Deitch, JD, Psy.D
Keystone Extended Care Unit
2000 Providence Ave
Chester PA 19013
Phone: 610-876-8448
Fax: 610-876-2217

COSLAA meeting newcomers may call her to access the meeting room. (9/15/10)

Bala Cynwood RCA (recovering couples anonymous, COSLAA members asked to attend with SLAA members)

Fridays, 7pm

St. Asaph’s Church, 27 Conshocken State Rd., 1 block west of City Avenue.

Contact Anita at 215 763 5685

Rhode Island

Woonsocket (Opening 8/22/05)
2nd Mondays 7-8:30 PM
St.Agatha’s Church
Joffre Street, Woonsocket, RI
Contact: Francine – (508) 579-7341
for directions and confirming your first meeting. Monthly meeting currently

Salt Lake City (newcomers sought for new meeting, posted 5/17/08)
Contact: Issac at

International requested meetings:

Interested newcomers willing to help start a meeting, please email to
(closed to sex and love addicts, only for family, friends, significant others affected by someone’s sex and love addiction) Contact:Jane
(closed meeting, seeking newcomers
in the Vancouver area) Contact:Diane

Netherlands COSLAA (5/19/07)
Near Rotterdam


  1. i am looking for a 12 step program in my area in vancouver for partners of sex addicts. thank you.

    Comment by judy — July 13, 2009 @ 10:44 pm

  2. Would anyone be interested in starting a group in New Haven Ct

    Comment by Donna — July 16, 2009 @ 11:05 am

  3. Hi –

    Just want to update the list for Paoli, Pennsylvania. The Saturday morning meeting has now been changed to 10:30 a.m.
    Paoli Presbyterian Church, 225 South Valley Rd., Streeter Lounge

    Not sure about the new contact information. I’ll get back to you shortly.


    Comment by Trish — July 18, 2009 @ 9:22 pm

  4. Dear Donna,
    Our August 8, 2009 Augustine Alchemy conference will be held in New Haven. It is a wonderful day of healing and a good place to network to find others who would like to start a meeting.

    There is information on the COSLAA website about starting a meeting.

    In fellowship,

    Comment by Brenda — July 25, 2009 @ 2:35 pm

  5. Hi, I’m the wife of a sexual addict.Are there any meetings in Maple Ridge, b.c or close to it.I tried the email above for Diane(vancouver area) but couldn’t make contact.

    Comment by karen — July 26, 2009 @ 5:32 pm

  6. There is nothing even remotely close to me in MAINE. If you could send any information, links, advice or contacts my I would be more than grateful.

    Thank you for keeping my anonymity

    Comment by Ifonly — August 14, 2009 @ 7:51 am

  7. I am looking for a meeting (I am in western Massachusetts, an hour from Albany, NY, and an hour from Northhampton, MA. So far I’ve found nothing. Is there anyone who would be willing to do some emailing fellowship with me? I am the wife of a sex/love addict.

    Comment by Robin — October 9, 2009 @ 10:01 am

  8. Seattle area?? Anyone interested in starting a group in the Seattle/Puget Sound area? Please post here. Thanks.

    Comment by Clare — October 26, 2009 @ 11:36 pm



    Paoli Presbyterian Church, 225 South Valley Rd., Streeter Lounge

    Call Trish at 610-247-0761 for more information.

    Comment by Trish — November 19, 2009 @ 1:43 pm

  10. How do I start a group in my area?

    Comment by Linda — December 8, 2009 @ 11:00 am

  11. I would like to start a group in the Bradenton/Sarasota areas of FL, how do I go about starting a group? Thanks.

    Comment by Linda — December 8, 2009 @ 11:02 am

  12. Is anything available in the south Texas area? 20 year wife of sex addict and in desperate need of support. Thanks

    Comment by Sue — January 27, 2010 @ 5:15 pm

  13. I wanted to update the Kingston MA meeting info:

    It is at 7 – 8:30 pm (NOT 6 -7 as listed) at the Vineyard Church ( 8 Hilltop Ave, Kingston MA); meeting is upstairs.
    Contact Beth at 508 274-4261 or Tina at 781 526-7663

    Comment by Tina — February 19, 2010 @ 2:31 pm

  14. This is a message for Sue from south Texas, or anyone else on this list. There are no meetings in my area either, but I’d love to start an email or internet or phone group. I am also the 20-year wife of a sex addict. Since these postings do not come with email addresses, I’m just going to give mine, and hopefully it will be published here. Please feel free to contact me. I’m familiar with 12-step programs and I’d love to start a long distance group.

    Comment by Robin — March 9, 2010 @ 12:33 pm

  15. I live in Akron, Ohio, and we have no slaa meetings there that I know of. PLEASE HELP!!!

    Comment by allen w. — August 9, 2010 @ 11:45 am

  16. Hi
    I have been married to a sex addict for 34 yrs.He has what w e think is sexual anorexia. Is there any meetings for me to go to get some help in the Post falls Coeur D Alene area Idaho? I am desperate for help. Thank you Linda

    Comment by Linda S — September 17, 2010 @ 12:11 am

  17. I’m a wife of a sex and love addict, I’m wondering if there’s anybody in Ventura County or Santa Barbara County in California that’s also interested in starting a group, or at least connect with me.

    Thank you

    Comment by Yan S. — September 18, 2010 @ 2:14 am

  18. Im looking for a meeting place in maryland.Please help

    Comment by Becky — October 7, 2010 @ 12:33 pm

  19. Hello, I am interested in attending a meeting in Phoenix AZ.
    I emailed this address: for a Phoenix chapter, but my email account says that this address does not exists.
    anyone interested?

    Comment by Dhyan — November 11, 2010 @ 1:45 pm

  20. Hi all, does anybody know of any sex addict related groups in Australia. I’m based on the Central Coast, one hour north of Sydney. More than happy to communicate via as well. Please help.

    Comment by Downunder — November 15, 2010 @ 9:05 pm

  21. I am from out of the United States, married for 38 years to a person acting out sexually since the beginning of our marriage, but me, being codependent, never recognized it. I know the 12 Steps programs through Al-Anon and AA since I am also a recovering alcoholic.
    I like to have an email contact with your group and with other people in my position. And maybe I can start a program down in my country also.

    Comment by Cristina — December 10, 2010 @ 2:52 pm

  22. Hello, I too have no meetings in my area but I am DESPERATE for immediate help!! My husband is a sex addict and right now we are separated and filing for divorce (not my choice AT ALL!). We were together for 8 years, married for 4 years today and have 2 children together. He currently is not residing with us any more, he decided that’s what was best. He says he married me for the sex but I know that isn’t true, he just wants nothing to do with me at all. I tried reaching out to help but he pushes me away, one benefit I do have in all this though, he does know he has a problem and he admits he is an addict. I could use any and all help and advice I could get since there isn’t anything in my area for this, plus I have no one to talk to about this issue.

    Comment by Heather — December 12, 2010 @ 5:51 am

  23. Dec. 12, 2010. I am in Montreal and interested in contacting Jane of the coslaa Montreal.
    Beth L

    Comment by Beth LaRocque — December 12, 2010 @ 7:19 pm

  24. Can anyone tell me where and when the COSLAA meetings are in Toronto?

    Comment by hope — February 13, 2011 @ 3:32 pm

  25. I am the wife of a sex addict and I am looking for a COSLAA organization/meeting group in the western Massachusetts/Southern Vermont/Albany-Schenectady-Troy area. I see that Robin is in western, mass. Robin: Perhaps we could connect, either over the phone or via e-mail to help each other and/or to start something in our area.

    Comment by M — March 16, 2011 @ 2:21 pm

  26. I have been a member of SLAA for 18 years and it has literally saved my life. My Girlfriend of 3 years is aware of my recovery and very supportive. We both feel that she might benefit from COSLAA meetings. Are there any meetings in the Seattle/Puget Sound area. Thank You…

    Comment by Eddie — March 19, 2011 @ 1:55 pm

  27. I am in need of finding a coslaa meeting in the newport RI area. I am having trouble locating one. Can anyone help?

    Comment by Melissa — March 31, 2011 @ 3:31 pm

  28. i can’t seem to reach the mass. contact in newburyport ,email invalid, anyone have a contact for north shore of mass i am a newcomer,thanks

    Comment by elise — April 5, 2011 @ 8:28 am

  29. please sendme information of slaa meetings in Houston, Texas, i need to atend to this meetings, thanks.

    Comment by Alicia Heredia — June 1, 2011 @ 1:33 pm

  30. I would like to connect with south Texas COSLAA organization/meeting group.
    Perhaps we could connect, either over the phone or via e-mail to help each other and/or to start something in our area.

    Comment by Anna — June 21, 2011 @ 1:03 pm

  31. Dear Alicia,
    This website is not for SLAA. There is a separate website and help line that you can find through the internet.

    Best wishes.
    COSLAA webguide

    Comment by brenda — July 4, 2011 @ 12:52 pm

  32. Hi – Are there any meetings in Sydney, Australia – or any one keen on starting one?


    Comment by kbstr — July 13, 2011 @ 1:13 am

  33. I am looking to start up a meeting to connect with other partners of sex addicts in Southern NH/ border of MA…phone or in person..i am lookingto get and give support from others who have been in this. Thanks

    Comment by Joy — July 26, 2011 @ 12:29 am

  34. Need meeting near Leesburg or Reston VA.

    Comment by Shirley Tibbetts — September 26, 2011 @ 8:29 am

  35. I am looking for support near Chgo Il

    Comment by Jan — September 28, 2011 @ 1:37 pm

  36. Dear Joy,
    You can contact Diane at and see how the Concord NH meeting forming is going.
    Welcome to our fellowship,

    Comment by brenda — October 2, 2011 @ 6:35 pm

  37. Dear Shirley,
    Not yet, but we can help you get started by linking you with other newcomers in your area. We would list an anonymous contact for you on our website.
    Welcome to our fellowship.

    Comment by brenda — October 2, 2011 @ 6:38 pm

  38. Dear Jan,
    Not yet, but we can help you get a meeting started. You could provide us with an anonymous contact for you and we can list it on the website.
    Welcome to our fellowship.

    Comment by brenda — October 2, 2011 @ 6:39 pm

  39. Hi!

    I really want to find or start a meeting in Vermont. Or at least have a phone meeting or others to connect with over the phone. I am in Montpelier, VT.

    my email is (no spaces, i am just writing it this way to avoid spam): marina . carleton @ gmail . com

    Comment by Marina — January 2, 2012 @ 6:38 pm

  40. I need support and a meeting in Utah. Either online or Face 2 face. Thank you.

    Comment by Rosie — January 15, 2012 @ 7:04 pm

  41. I need support in the Salt Lake City, UT area. Either face 2 face or online. Thank you.

    Comment by Rosie — January 15, 2012 @ 7:05 pm

  42. Hi my name is Nicole and im a wife of a sex addict but we have 5 children and im a stay at home mom and well i was raped,sexually molested and abused from 5-18 yrs of age and so maybe its not him maybe its me or its just the both of us i dont know but i really need someone to talk to at least about this cause this is causeing some major problems now and im worried he might leave me and then i have noone and no job to take care of our 5 children…my best friend just passed away in august of last year so i just feel like i have absoulutly noone so if anyone wants to at least listen to what i have to say great if anyone wants to talk to me about there problems and have like an email pen pal type thing going then great well anyone anyone feel free to email and talk with me my email address is

    Comment by Nicole — February 8, 2012 @ 6:51 pm

  43. Ms. Brenda, i’m new to this & don’t know the difference between SLAA & CoSLAA . . . but i might fit into both. Can you help me understand? i live in Reno & know i’m not the only one here with these issues

    Comment by Brian R — February 11, 2012 @ 6:09 pm

  44. I have been married to a sex and love/relationship addict for 40 years. He has been trying to recover for over 3 years. But while he has been not sexually active, he has continued the abuse and lying toward me and has been lying to his therapists. (denial of how bad he really is?) . Just moved to Delaware and he is again trying to commit to the process and to me. I had been in therapy for the last 2 years. But I need to find a new therapist here in DE and I think a support group would also be helpful to me. I only find groups in Philadelphia and that area and I cannot do that distance driving particularly at night. I need help in getting help for ME.

    Comment by Judy — February 16, 2012 @ 2:57 pm

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